where to start?

When starting on the journey of recovery from the impacts of trauma it can be helpful to spend a moment thinking about the direction you want to head in.  Connecting with your values is a helpful first step. 

When we talk about values we mean the personal qualities that are important to you. You could ask yourself:

At my 80th birthday party what would I want to hear from my close friends and family about my best qualities that helped me overcome the effects of the trauma I experienced?  

{potentially Insert image of animation character as old person with birthday cake; people all smiling with speech bubbles empty  or with examples ' caring, loving, courageous, exciting, fun, skillful, calm, thoughtful } 


The 'Bull's eye' is a helpful tool to help you think about whether your recovery decisions are guided by your values. 

Ask yourself, “What kinds of qualities will help in each of these areas of recovery?” 

For example, being caring in your relationships may be important to you and help you connect with others. It is not about becoming a saint, but thinking about what kinds of qualities are most important to you in starting your recovery and driving your decisions and behaviour. 

[insert image of a bull's eye split into four sections (4 colours maybe), one for self-care, connecting with others, engaging with life, managing emotions, with examples then blank for them to fill in }

Having identified your values, mark an X in each section of the diagram, depending on how close your life and your values are in line with one another. The closer to the bull's eye you put the X the closer your life and values are to one another.


Having placed an X for each life domain spend a moment to think to yourself:

What is the first step I need to take in my recovery?

What tool from the tool kit would be a helpful place to start?

Who could help me and do I need some additional support [insert link to GP]?




Adapted from Russ Harris' The Happiness Trap.